Anyone who is in a relationship will find themselves wondering if they are built for the long haul. It’s only natural, right?
No one wants to waste their time with a relationship that is doomed to failure. Of course, no one can really predict the future. No matter how good we may feel about a relationship today, problems can often lurk around the corner.
That’s what makes this therapist’s advice so sound. No, her answer has nothing to do with sexual chemistry and it does not matter if your families are able to hit it off. Your Pocket Therapist is sharing their wisdom on TikTok and you are definitely going to want to check this one out. Their answer to this age-old question just might end up surprising you.
“An experiment showed that how couples respond to the other’s bid for attention determines if they will stay together,” she shares. Bids are attempts at furthering a connection. An example of a bid could be something as simple as asking them to look at a roadside attraction or sighing so that they will ask if you are having any problems.
“Couples who responded positively to bids were 80 percent more likely to stay together in a year than those who responded negatively or didn’t respond,” she continued. “This study proved humans think it’s better to be single than be unseen,” the psychotherapist concluded. The comment section was full of people who were sure to sound off about the study and what it meant for their own relationships.
We love to see all of the happy couples talking about their experiences in the comments. Our hearts also went out to the people who spoke about their past experiences that were not so kind. We all know what it is like to be ignored and it sucks when you want to show your partner something but they are more interested in scrolling on their phone (or whatever the case may be).
In a world where it can be hard to figure out someone’s true intentions, it can be hard to differentiate between overthinking and actually assessing the state of the relationship. That’s why therapists are a vital resource in these instances. They allow us to learn more and keep us from having to go through all of the guesswork.
Check out her video below:
@your_pocket_therapist Do you and your partner (or person you like) do this? #relationshiptips #therapytiktok #mentalhealth #attachment